***Warning, rant ahead***
I don’t usually get myself involved with many of the mum/girl groups on Facebook. I’m a member of most groups especially the ones in my area.
Everyone is entitled to their opinions and each of us parent differently, but being a mum to 3 amazing BOYS, I can’t help but go on the defensive. So the question was;
Would you let your son wear nail polish?? Even if their dad wouldn’t accept it, he’s a boy and it’s a girly thing to do?? Is the dad being sexist??
Now, quite a lot of ladies said never mind dad, it is a sexist comment and you should let the boy do it and even choose his favourite colour. But obviously, you get even more people saying dad is correct and boys shouldn’t be painting their nails, playing with dolls and prams or even wearing dresses!!
This got me fairly annoyed, imagine if this question was about a girl wanting to play with trucks or football?? Everybody would be screaming about equality and what’s good for a boy is good for a girl……But surely it should work for boys too??
The munchkin has spent pretty much most of his life with me, his mum. Watching me wear dresses, paint my nails and put makeup on. As with all children, they get curious, if a little girl asked, you’d go right ahead and do all those things because she’s imitating what she sees, guess what?? So are boys.
Whenever, the munchkin asked to have his nails painted I’d let him choose a colour, if he wanted to dress up in a dress I let him. He went through a phase of watching My Little Pony and Disney Fairies and even asked for the MLP main character plushies one Christmas and he got them.
As much as his dad would say I shouldn’t let him do it, he never once made any comments to him about it. He’s tried wearing lipstick too. If I’m honest, one of his best friends is a girl and he spends a lot of time with her and let’s face it they end up playing with dolls and prams.
I’ve never told my son, no you’re a boy you don’t do this, because in my mind if he thinks it’s something forbidden he could start doing these things hidden away when he gets older, and you know what let children experiment and try different things, children have voices and should be allowed to express themselves. We bang on about letting our children be children but then telling them certain things are wrong because of their sex?? Boys grow into dads, who have BABIES and PUSH PRAMS!!!
Shouldn’t we encourage boys and teach them how to be fathers while they’re young the way we do with little girls??
My son is a very caring, kind, sensitive yet confident boy. He knows he’s a boy and knows he wants to marry a woman and have children when he’s older. He’s very aware of his sexuality and can’t help but tell me if he sees a woman’s bum he likes. He’s comfortable in his skin and with who he is. He knows what he wants and he’ll go after it. He loves play fighting with his daddy and playing with cars and on his Nintendo Switch.
But he also likes to play with dolls and prams and have a little pamper with his girlfriends. He told me he didn’t want to go to the forest with the boys because sometimes boy stuff is boring! I gave him his own pamper party that weekend at home and he loved it. He also had a great time with the boys in the forest too!
The fact that I had a lot of people telling me that I was wrong to let my son experiment, especially when he was 2-3 years old. In my eyes, it is all part of imaginative play and helps with any child’s development.
I’ve even had the comment it’ll make him gay! I mean seriously?? He’s still my son and I’ll still love him no matter what.
He loves musical theatre and singing. He enjoys his swimming lessons and doing workbooks. I have and will always raise my boys to be polite, respectful, have manners and to treat women with respect. I will teach them that it’s not ok to hit another person whether it’s a boy or a girl. You don’t bully others or say nasty things.
Let kids be kids and have fun I say!!
Do you agree with me?? What do you think?? I’d love to read your thoughts on this subject.